The Captain was right.

So my friend, The Captain, is newly divorced and has been a great person to talk to about this journey of separation and eventual divorce.  He's been a great sounding board since none of my good female friends have been through this.  When the initial friendship started, he told me that once he finally made the decision to separate and divorce, and made it public, a lot of people he knew came to him and said that they wished they could do the same, that they weren't happy in their marriages.  As our friendship has continued we continue to discuss this, and he is ever the man ready with statistics on how truly unhappy people are in their marriages.


I chalked that up to sort of being a man thing.  I certainly believed him that people confided in him, but I didn't really think it could be that significant of an amount.  Not that I thought he was exaggerating, but in a situation like this, I figured even just a few people would seem like a lot.

Well, I'm sorry I underestimated the amount of unhappily married people out there who are willing to share once you come out and tell them first.  It's like a secret club, seriously! Now that my separation is public, so many people do indeed tell me how miserable they are.  The common theme amongst the women seems to be that they have lost themselves.  I feel like I should organize a local group to hang out and discuss the process.  Not a self help group, ewww.  An "I lost myself and am working really hard to get myself back because I really liked my old self"  kind of group, for men and women.  We could discuss our favorite things to do during "me" time, have dinner parties where no dates are allowed, go out to bars and make fun of drunk people hooking up on the dance floor, challenge each other to try new things.

We could be "The force of me," group.  When meeting new people you might casually ask "Are you a friend of me?"  If they answer yes, they can join.  And of course our motto will be "It's always me o'clock somewhere."  Guess I need to get those t-shirts printed!